Flying Solo - Learning To Love Being Alone

Are you comfortable travelling, going out, socialising on your own, or do you always prefer to share experiences with others?

In this episode, Lucy and Lisette reflect on their experiences of doing things independently throughout their lives and now as women in their 70s. They discuss the challenges and joys of reclaiming one’s identity after separation, divorce or the loss of a partner, and how they've learned to be comfortable in their own company.

Key Insights

• Lisette has generally been more comfortable doing things on her own, like going to the theatre or traveling, while Lucy took longer to embrace doing activities solo after her first marriage ended.

• The transition away from being part of a couple can be "discombobulating" as you have to redefine your sense of self and create new boundaries and ways of being in the world.

• Both friends have challenges with small talk and feeling anxious or self-conscious in certain social settings, like pubs or networking events. They share strategies they've learned, like asking questions to get the other person talking.

• The conversation delves into deeper issues of self-worth and needing external validation, stemming from their upbringings and family dynamics. Lucy and Lisette plan to continue growing and learning, rather than accepting limits based on their age.

• Learning to be comfortable in your own company develops over time, often as a result of life events that force you to reinvent yourself. Curiosity and a willingness to put yourself out there can help overcome feelings of self-consciousness.

Why You Should Listen

This episode provides a relatable and insightful look at the journey of self-discovery that can come with being single, independent, or working as a consultant or freelancer.

Lisette and Lucy's experiences and reflections offer valuable lessons for anyone navigating the joys and challenges of doing things independently, whether by choice or circumstance. Their conversation is both deeply personal and universally resonant. They invite listeners to share their own tips and experiences with navigating social situations and doing activities independently – particularly as women.

Join The Conversation

Do you enjoy your own company or have you learned to navigate solo activities by trial and error? Or do you always prefer to socialise or network with a partner or friend alongside?

If you have tips and tricks to help Lucy and Lisette - and others - be better at small talk or taking part in group activities alone, please tell us about them in the comments.

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